How to Be Alone, Without Feeling Lonely.
- Griff
As a former firefighter, Griff understands that we live in a stressful world, and now as a qualified meditation expert who holds popular seminars teaching us how to love ourselves and others, he wants to help you nourish your soul. Beyond that, he’s also a nutritional and emotional guide and strongly urges everyone to seek their optimal best.
We frequently get MindEasy users asking us, well almost everything…and we love it! So we’ll do our best to answer your questions. Feel free to contact us if you want to ask Griff… anything!
Dear Griff,
How can I be alone, without feeling lonely?
Emily from Berlin, Germany
Hi Emily,
Thanks for this question, it’s a really valuable experience to be able to be by oneself without feeling alone – the absence of people can often make us feel nervous, but like many of us, I imagine your current life is busy so taking time out will give you time to think and appreciate life.
So, it’s time to take yourself on a date! What do you like to do? Perhaps go to a coffee shop – where you’re less likely to feel conscious amid the comings and goings of customers – and maybe take your favourite book.
Enjoy this bit of time to truly relax and relish your own company, and avoid comparing yourself to others. What can make you feel conscious of being alone is when you see a group of friends gathering together – rather than feel envy, feel gratitude that they’re doing their thing, and you’re doing your’s.
A simple change in perspective is all you need. You don’t need to seek validation from others, so it’s important to stop seeking to be the centre of attention. Try to be happy with yourself.
Time with nature is a perfect chance to be alone, without feeling lonely. Go for a walk and consciously take note of your surroundings. Before you go out, it would be good to make a list of things or animals you want to seek out. As you’re just starting out on spending time alone, consciously try to keep yourself occupied until you genuinely feel comfortable.
You may ask though, it is healthy to be alone? The answer is yes, of course! But as with all things in life, it’s a balance…it’s integral that you take time out to help reevaluate your life in a calm, peaceful way – but it’s also important to socialise with people. As humans we all need social contact!
If your physical health is suffering, like you’re tired or not eating well and your body feels lethargic, take note if you have been spending too much time out with friends or colleagues. If this is the case, then it’s time to scale back – take a weekend off dedicated to yourself to reenergise.
With Christmas and New Year’s just around the corner, it’s more important than ever to spend some beautiful time with yourself.
I hope this helps!
Griff
